Coping Strategies
The principalship can be a lonely and difficult job which speaks to why the shelf life of a principal in any one school is often not exceedingly long. The amount of stuff on the plate of a principal can be overwhelming, and the blame for everything perceived as wrong will be directed towards you! And those are on the good days!
Of course, there are foundational leadership and people skills to be honed, time management strategies to be utilized, and the wisdom that comes with experience, which can make the responsibilities of the principalship less life-threatening.
But, additionally, there are personal life tips which are critical if the principal will develop the mental and physical fitness to maintain success. For example, be more aware of your own “self talk.” What messages do you give yourself as you wake up each day? Focus on a few things you know can be positive today, or something for which you are grateful. Do not begin your day anticipating negatives.
Carving time for your personal fitness is not only a physically healthy habit but also relieves stress, lowers blood pressure, and often allows you to prepare for an upcoming meeting or difficult conversation. Some use exercise time as an opportunity to reflect on one’s practices. Your exercise time should become hallowed!
Prayer and meditation is a great connector to a Higher Source! This habit gives you grounding whether or not you are religious. Try to attain clarity and direction. Also, give yourself at least a half hour a day or private “think time.” Close the door, shut your phone, or go for a walk by yourself, and sift through one or two issues. Look at it from different angles and try to “solutionize” an approach you think may work.
Another idea, is to form your own council of mentors, constructed of colleagues, friends, and experts, who can become your own sounding board of advisors. These are people whom you can call when in a difficult dilemma, and to whom you can turn to seek advice from a non-judgmental source. Attend educational conferences and meetings to build a network of other experienced principals. Bouncing ideas off of others in similar situations can build confidence, experience, and facilitate effective problem solving.
Create a growth plan for yourself which includes a list of books or resources to read, a new skill or habit to inculcate, and perhaps a private journal which has some of the issues you have overcome, some mistakes made and lessons learned throughout the weeks and months. This journal can become the most knowledge-filled and inspiring resource.
Finally, don’t burn the midnight oil! Make sure you get the rest your mind and body needs. Eat well and drink a lot of water. A tired, exhausted principal cannot lead effectively. Try to set time for yourself before your bedtime and prepare to greet the new day!
